Dear Hannah and Cienna,

There’s a girl who really likes me, but I don’t feel the same way about her. I want to let her know I’m not interested without being too harsh. What do you recommend?

Sincerely,

Dispensable Devotee

Dear Dispensable Devotee,

Have you ever seen How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days? It’s kind of the same idea: subtly drive them away. Make it clear that you just want to be friends. This can be accomplished by calling her “pal,” “dude,” or “buddy” as a last resort. Make sure you comment on how great your friendship is multiple times. Also, you should probably not hang out one on one with her because she might think it’s a date. (There is a fine line after all.) Depending on how well you know her, you could also talk to her about your interest in a different girl, and you can set her up with someone else.

If all else fails, move away, in all senses of the word. Just kidding, that would be mean, but you can try to keep your distance until her feelings subside.

XOXO, 

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